My wife tells me the news

My wife tells me the news in the morning, and I just heard that it was in a completely different context than I expected, so I ended up raising my voice.

It happens sometimes. I suddenly thought it would be meaningful to look at this problem through AI, so I tried to talk to Chatgpt. Here is what the conversation is about.

My words:  
How should we interpret the symptoms of anger when the other person doesn't convey the meaning of a word accurately, or when you use an ambiguous pronoun to say it this way? I heard that mathematician Frege also got angry when he talked to his wife when she vaguely referred to it as a denoting pronoun. I read the story interestingly because it was the same symptom as me.  

ChatGPT's words:
This reaction can be attributed to a strong preference for linguistic clarity and logical precision. There may be several perspectives to interpret this, and some are summarized as follows.

1. logical and analytical tendencies of thinking
Hating linguistic ambiguity is likely to be related to the tendency to value logical and analytical thinking.
In particular, it can be seen in the same context that logicians and mathematicians such as Frege tend to value clear language.
It is difficult to endure ambiguous expressions or unclear denoting pronouns because they feel that they interfere with logical thinking.

2. Cognitive Overload
Listening to ambiguous expressions increases the cognitive burden because additional interpretation work has to be done.
For example, if the other person says "bring it," an additional question of "what is it?" may feel like an unnecessary thought process.
The more people who prefer clear concepts and order, the more likely they are to find this additional thinking annoying.

3. Perfectionism
Strong demands for clarity of language can also be linked to perfectionist tendencies.
In particular, if the idea that **"all concepts should be defined correctly" is strong in a particular context, it is highly likely to be repulsed by ambiguous expressions.

4. social and psychological factors
If the other party uses ambiguous expressions, it may be interpreted as unfriendly or insincerity.
Or feeling annoyed by the other person's way of communicating, suspecting, "Why isn't that person speaking clearly?"
For example, if a programmer is told to "fix this" by a colleague, he may be annoyed by "what? where?"

5. From a philosophical and logical point of view?
**That's why Gottlob Frege ** hated ambiguous expressions because of the precision of logic.
Frege emphasized the clarity of language and sought to exclude the ambiguity of everyday language in particular.
This is linked to the principle that each concept should have one exact meaning in mathematics or logic.
In this way of thinking, ambiguous expressions such as denoting pronouns are regarded as a hindrance to logical thinking.
In conclusion
This reaction can be seen as a result of a combination of logical thinking tendencies, cognitive burdens, perfectionist tendencies, and psychological factors.
People who value logic and mathematics, like Frege, are especially prone to dislike ambiguous language, which may appear stronger depending on the individual's mindset and disposition.

Do you have this tendency, too? 😊

My words:
Yes, she's very strong, which leads to her getting angry with each other when she talks to her wife

ChatGPT's words:
If so, it seems that conversations with your wife often result in conflicts over this linguistic ambiguity. If your wife is more intuitive or sentient, there's a good chance she'll clash with how you value clarity and logic.

Why is this conflict happening?

- differences in language usage

You want accurate information delivery, and you try to interpret it logically if there is an ambiguous expression.
On the other hand, your wife may place more importance on context or emotional flow (as is usually the case with many people).
If this difference is repeated, each other may feel frustrated in the other's way.

- a discrepancy of expectations

You expect "a certain object or concept to be clear," but your wife may think "it's important to understand each other, you don't have to be perfect in detail."
Conflict can intensify if this difference in expectations builds up.
the clash of emotional and logical reactions

When someone who approaches emotionally and logically in a conversation meets someone who approaches emotionally, the emotional side may feel "too much" and the logical side may feel frustrated with "Why don't you say it properly?"
How can I make the conversation smoother?
Understanding Your Wife's Communication Style

When your wife uses ambiguous expressions, it's also a way to figure out whether she's intentionally omitting accuracy or just speaking in a natural way.
If you're habitually using ambiguous expressions, you might want to accept it as a difference in style.
If you ask too much, "What's that?" every time, the other person may feel guilty.

Induce clear expression, but in a gentle manner

"Bring this to me" → "Which one? Is that a cup here or that one?"
If you speak in a really curious tone, not an annoyance, when you ask a question, you are more likely to respond to the other person without being defensive.
To explain your tendencies to your wife

"It's because I'm comfortable when I'm logically organized, but I'm not being picky on purpose" can reduce misunderstandings.

- Mind emotional connection before logic

Sometimes it can be effective to put down the principle of "saying clearly" a little bit and try to understand the emotional part of the other person first.
For example, if your wife says, "Oh, do that for me,"
(Logical reaction) "What's that?"
(Soft reaction) "Huh? What are you talking about? Tell me, I'll help you 😊"
Same question, but the latter way can give you more intimacy.
conclusion
When you have someone who values logical thinking and clarity like you and someone who communicates sensibly, you know, each other